So, you decide you are not having anymore kids. Awesome! Great! Congratulations! Awkward silence... It's now time to talk about more permanent forms of birth control. Let's be real no one wants a "whoops," although they still do happen. So as you know, my husband and I have come to this decision that we are finished having kids of our own. So I kind of thought we had had this conversation before we even had our first, Olive that he was eventually going to get a vasectomy. And I kind of thought that it didn't even need to be said out loud, "book the appointment!" He is the one not wanting more kids so get it done my friend! Annnnd he didn't. Yep, definitely needs to be said out loud.
So I brought it up, made a compelling case about how I need a piece of mind. That we needed something more permanent. The last thing I need is the stress that we could have a child and we aren't on the same page. Plus birth control costs money and when you never intend on coming off it again it is just an expense I don't want to have. So now it comes down to him or me. I had no intentions of getting my tubes tied I will be up front about that. It is a way more invasive process with a 6 week recovery time and that is the thanks I get after birthing two children. So I start to bargain: "You will be taking two weeks off of work because I won't be here. I call it the 2 week recovery vacation (could make longer to prove point) and I will be on it if you don't want to get a vasectomy done that bad." Well, after a little research he booked himself the appointment.
You know the day you first get pregnant and then every crazy story comes out of the wood work of all these terrible pregnancies and births. I remember being petrified of losing my teeth, hemerging to a near death and losing my baby all together with the first little bit of my pregnancy. I have never been more scared to do anything in all my life. Same thing goes for vasectomies. Honestly, the stories that came out really freaked Rob out. Balls going black, losing function of your "you know what". But he was committed and there was no turning back.
So in the midst of these terrible two weeks of rain and head lice, Rob got the surgery and not to worry he is fine and his member is fine. I am not going to lie to you and say he has had the best time of his life but it has taken about a week to start feeling his normal self again. Both of us have no regrets and it is really not as scary as it may seem. He gets everything tested in 2 months and ta da, all done! Anyways it has been a crazy couple weeks. Sorry if I have been off, there has just been so much going on. I just need life to slow down so I can catch up. Not like that is going to happen. If I have learnt one thing, it is to continue having these types of conversations. Expectations and decisions change over time. It is not a one talk and we are done. So have these conversations now and later and in between. Any men out there needing reassurance just talk to Rob. Best husband ever!